3 Steps to Stop Being a Victim of your Circumstances
I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I must tell you…the easy button doesn’t exist. On the flip side, there is good news: YOU CAN CHANGE. You can be the creator of your life instead of the victim of your circumstances! It’s a simple process, but not an easy one.
If you’re living in survival mode, your focus is on the worst-case scenario. You are constantly prepared to run from the unknown. This serves us well when we are actually in danger – the better prepared we are, the greater our chance of survival. This is instinctual. However, if we allow ourselves to live in this mode on a regular basis, all of our energy is spent on survival and we can’t do anything else. We can’t learn, grow, connect, create, or repair.
Some people spend most of their time thinking about the worst things happening and even emotionally embracing these thoughts. When this is done repeatedly, the body is conditioned for fear, worry, anxiety, and even panic attacks. In this state, you don’t believe in possibility because you’re stuck in the negative cycle of that familiar past – thinking the worst and feeling the emotions of those thoughts.
How do we go about breaking that cycle? How do we change? How do we stop living in survival mode? How do we become the creator of our desired life?
I’ve boiled down the process into 3 simple steps.
- The first step to changing your life is choosing to become uncomfortable. Change requires us to spend time in the unknown and the unknown is uncomfortable.
- The second step is to begin thinking about what you’re thinking about. 95% of our thoughts are subconscious replays of past experiences and emotions. We must assess what thoughts are filling our mind because we can only change the thoughts in our conscious awareness.
- Third and finally, start rewiring your brain. By replacing thoughts and emotions of past conditioning with new, positive thoughts and emotions of our future, ideal self, we evolve. We start to create the person we want to be and the life we want to live.
Where we place our attention is where we place our energy. When we invest our energy in ourselves, we create joy and fulfillment. We change. We create our desired life!
Are you living in survival mode or thriving as the creator of your life?